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Letter to a Wayward Wife

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The following letter was sent around by email in the past week. I don’t know where it came from.

The message though, is eternal…

Dear Wayward Wife,

Let’s take a moment to honestly look at your future as a divorcee.  It is both stark and bleak.  You are going to be chronically poor. Statistically, in spite of your hopes and dreams of new and better love, you are unlikely to remarry.  Even if you do, the man you marry will be of a lower quality than the man you’re leaving and will likely to be much older; ten or more years your senior is common.  Continue reading

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Time for Affirmative Action legislation in child custody matters

UPDATED: October 10, 2011

It has been four months since I’ve been allowed to see my son. I am supposed to see him every other weekend if I am not away working but there is always some excuse. He’s sick. She’s sick. He has an exam. There is a family birthday for his uncle. He doesn’t feel like going away this weekend. Always something.

I’m out of money and out of options. The court spits on me. I am a wallet and nothing else. That is how society views me and all fathers.

“You want to know why Barbados has so many ill-disciplined, maladjusted young males?  That’s easy – society and the courts arranged for fathers to be viewed as disposable upon the whim of any woman who tires of the father of her children.

On any mother’s word, the man is out of the house alone and is reduced to providing monetary support while begging for an hour here and there with his children – if that 110 pounds of hate will let him see his children at all.”

Gender-based child custody quotas needed to correct anti-father bias in the courts.

Barbados courts (and UK and American courts too) overwhelmingly award custody of children to mothers – not because women are any better at raising children than men, but because of a deep-seated societal prejudice against fathers as reinforced by anti-male family laws. The birth mother might be an illiterate woman of low character who pawns the children off on relatives while she parties with different men every night and the father a hard-working man who cherishes his children: but the father will hardly ever be awarded primary custody.

This anti-father bias has led to a generation of young boys being raised solely by women, and, as any thinking person will agree, mothers alone cannot be teach boys how to be men. Continue reading

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Canadian turned Bajan has the last word on the PWC Barbados Globe and Mail story

Friends, some of you agreed with our coverage of the Dark Days in Barbados story in Canada’s Globe and Mail newspaper, and others thought we over-did it. A few readers hit the roof in anger – either at us or the newspaper depending on their feelings. Others thought we should leave Elaine Sibson alone, which is an interesting position considering Ms. Sibson was the one who volunteered to tell her personal story to the world via the Globe and Mail.

CTV Television and other Canadian outlets also carried Gordon Pitts’ “Dark days in Barbados”

For some reason this story generated very high attention with BFP’s readership and internationally. In the last 24 hours over five thousand people read each of our articles on the Globe and Mail story. There were many different opinions and perspectives. (As a side note, after reading the PWC stories, thousands of people stayed and read dozens of other articles here at Barbados Free Press.)

One BFP reader raised a point that we’d never considered and is, upon reflection, something that the Globe and Mail left out. It is a factor that might or might not have had a major influence on Ms. Sibson’s decision to move to Barbados and her subsequent trouble adjusting. We’ll let a BFP reader (and divorced father) say it for himself…

She had a divorce, was awarded custody of her 12 year old daughter and what did she do? She requested a job thousands of miles away from the girl’s father. That sounds not nice to me and any other divorced father who knows the pain.

Move-Away Moms Harm Children

Moms who take their children and move away from their children’s fathers create life-long hardship for their children. Granted there are rare exceptions when a move may be warranted. But they far rarer than NOWers (National Organization of Women -ed) admit.

Generally, move-away-moms move primarily for their own best interest and not their children’s…”

… you can read his entire comment here: Nice Lady? Fathers’ Rights Now!

Food for thought, for sure.

But okay, it’s time to move on to other stories and we’ll do so now. Although the comments will remain open, this is the last BFP will say about the story. We’ll let the last word in our article be spoken by someone who disagrees with BFP’s coverage.

Dear Barbados Free Press,

Your less then stellar story on “Globe and Mail changes misleading website headline – print edition still proclaims “Dark Days in Barbados” has had me irritated all day.

I am a Canadian, presently living in Barbados, and am married to a Bajan, but, it hasn’t always been easy!

You want coverage and only good shining words about Barbados in all papers? Not gine ta happen ya.

I can sympathize with the woman as I to had to deal with the culture shock, it is up to the individual how they deal with it.

I’ve had to deal with the humiliation of being treated less then human by the Barbados immigration dept, in Bridgetown, this goes on daily there.

When coming to Barbados, working in a supervisory capacity, Bajan’s show a whole different side.

She wrote an article and her experience wasn’t all it could have been, but the article headline was hardly misleading! The fact that the paper changed the article headline is a fact of Canadians being nice to a fault.

(Sent via email to BFP. Name provided to BFP but not published by our editor)

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