Talk ya talk!
By American “CU”
I feel it is my responsibility and duty to inform your readers, especially the ones here in the United States, on the favoritism and bias or non-decisions handed down as orders by some in your judicial system in Barbados. Especially if the presiding Judge happens to be friends with the opposing counsel, or maybe they both belong to the same labor party.
This all started back in May of this year, when my daughter finally got an interview with the US embassy to obtain her Green Card for her and her daughter. Even though they were never married the child ended up with the father’s last name and the Embassy requested that he provided a letter of permission.
This ended up in the courts and this one judge that in my opinion did not have the desire to rule and therefore, started in motion a set of procedures that prolonged the request. She even included the Child Care Board and even they did not change her original thoughts, that if the mother wanted to leave the Island, she must leave her three year old daughter with the father. Continue reading
UPDATED: October 10, 2011
It has been four months since I’ve been allowed to see my son. I am supposed to see him every other weekend if I am not away working but there is always some excuse. He’s sick. She’s sick. He has an exam. There is a family birthday for his uncle. He doesn’t feel like going away this weekend. Always something.
I’m out of money and out of options. The court spits on me. I am a wallet and nothing else. That is how society views me and all fathers.
“You want to know why Barbados has so many ill-disciplined, maladjusted young males? That’s easy – society and the courts arranged for fathers to be viewed as disposable upon the whim of any woman who tires of the father of her children.
On any mother’s word, the man is out of the house alone and is reduced to providing monetary support while begging for an hour here and there with his children – if that 110 pounds of hate will let him see his children at all.”
Gender-based child custody quotas needed to correct anti-father bias in the courts.
Barbados courts (and UK and American courts too) overwhelmingly award custody of children to mothers – not because women are any better at raising children than men, but because of a deep-seated societal prejudice against fathers as reinforced by anti-male family laws. The birth mother might be an illiterate woman of low character who pawns the children off on relatives while she parties with different men every night and the father a hard-working man who cherishes his children: but the father will hardly ever be awarded primary custody.
This anti-father bias has led to a generation of young boys being raised solely by women, and, as any thinking person will agree, mothers alone cannot be teach boys how to be men. Continue reading