Barbados government makes support payments for delinquent fathers – Deadbeat dads, slut mothers say “Thanks taxpayers!”

… or a Slut Mother?

Deadbeat Fathers: I shouldn’t have to pay for your children!

Submitted by West Side Davie

A recent news story announced Barbados sets up child support assistance fund and covered Minister of Finance Chris Sinckler’s comments about deadbeat dads during the budget introduction. Sinckler used the politically-correct term ‘parents’ instead of ‘fathers’ but everybody knows that ‘parents’ word is a lie because fathers are never awarded custody of the children by Barbados courts. The few exceptions prove the rule but are usually held up anyway to prove that the system is ‘fair’ when everybody knows it is incredibly biased against men.

The bottom line of the story is that the Barbados government has decided to make support payments for delinquent fathers who cannot be found…

 “This situation has reached a particularly unsettling stage where on a weekly basis several parents who have ventured into the various Magistrates’ Courts to collect payments have had to leave empty-handed as these payments have not been made and Court Marshalls have been unable to locate the delinquent parent. The downside of this is that several of the nation’s children are then left to struggle without basic amenities and supplies necessary for a meaningful existence,” Sinckler said.

He said the persistence of this problem is causing major social dislocation among a particularly vulnerable segment of the country’s population.

“We are satisfied that this matter has reached such an unhealthy state that lack of intervention by Government at this stage will lead to the emergence of a dangerous set of circumstances that will work to undermine the household fabric of the society,”

The DLP government is not responsible for the disastrous societal changes that resulted in an exploding epidemic of single mother homes in Barbados in the last twenty years. There is no one cause for the ‘single mother culture’ and thousands of fatherless homes on this island, nor is this only a Bajan or Caribbean phenomena…

But…

This is just one more instance where Barbados is using tax dollars to perpetuate the destructive single mother culture. Men have been reduced to being nothing but sperm donors and then financial slaves for a few moments of pleasure. Don’t hand us some line once a year about fathers being necessary for the proper development of children, especially sons, when the daily actions of women, society and the courts show them in total opposition to the concept that fathers are important.

Aside from the continuing societal injustices against men, I’m tired of paying for other people’s children. I’m tired of paying in tax dollars, and I’m tired of paying in the reduced quality of life in Barbados. I’m tired of paying in increased crime by fatherless young men who have been taught everything they know by their uneducated, low-class, no-class, slut single mothers… of which there are hundreds and hundreds on this rock if not many thousands.

What is a slut mother? Here’s one definition:

When a woman has four children by three different men, none of whom she bothered to marry, and when she had to have a paternity test to be sure who was the father of two of her children: that woman is a slut.

There is no excuse these days, none at all, for women to have babies when they don’t want them. Women choose to have babies for many reasons – some good and some bad. Some of those reasons are selfish. Some foolish women want a man so badly they will trick the man into making a baby. They will say they are on the pill when they stopped months ago. This is far more common than young men realise.

Only women can break the cycle of fatherless homes

Not every lonely mother is a slut, and not every father who doesn’t pay for his children is a ‘deadbeat’. There are plenty of heartbreaking stories out there of bad things that happened to good people… but those people are, I think, in the minority when it comes to the thousands of fatherless homes on this island.

Unless and until Bajan women return to their former standard of carefully choosing the father of their children, and of choosing a man who shows himself to be willing and capable of supporting a family, Barbados will have to continue to deal with the droppings of slut mothers and deadbeat dads. Unless Bajan women make better decisions about when to make babies, the cycle will continue. Unless Bajan women take their precautions, they will find themselves living in poverty with a roomful of children and no man to support them.

The government finds itself in a no-win situation. It is not responsible for creating all these slut mothers and deadbeat dads, but the very programmes designed to help the children actually perpetuate the destructive sub-culture. Mores the pity that we can’t remove these children from their no-class mothers and break the cycle.

The famous ‘not without a washer’ sign

You see that sign above of the bolt chasing the nut? At one time on this rock that sign could be found hanging above any mechanic’s toolbox. Children were told that the sign reminded the mechanics to use washers when repairing cars, – but when sons were old enough, their fathers would explain the real meaning of the sign. My father explained it to me, and he told me that I should always use a washer because some women would like me enough to capture me for the rest of my life. He told me to not let the woman be in charge of when a baby was made or I would be sorry.

Dad told me that the way that men and women are designed, women wave that thing at the men and otherwise mature and intelligent young men give up the rest of their lives, their freedom and their lifetime’s wealth for a single moment. He said that some women were crazy and they would try to trap me and would ruin my life.

Dad was right, but he never thought that such a process would be supported by the government and society at large.

The women have control of the situation but lately they haven’t been exercising any judgment… and now everybody is paying.

West Side Davie

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59 responses to “Barbados government makes support payments for delinquent fathers – Deadbeat dads, slut mothers say “Thanks taxpayers!”

  1. Vernon C.

    I agree with everything the author said.

  2. fisherking

    West Side Davie has a point. The social acceptance of unmarried women having babies has made for more of it, and therefore more young men without male guidance. In case of a marriage breakup there is no reason why men should have their sons taken from them as is most common in the vast majority of cases. If anything women are generally less well-equipped to raise boys, for the same reasons that men are less well-equipped to raise daughters.

    In a marriage breakup the sons should generally go with their fathers, daughters with the mothers.

  3. what will they think of next

    Bravo.

  4. Bad man say nothing

    LORD! Hear my prayer!

    Spare me from the tear jerking stories in the Weekend Sun about single mothers living in poverty and being thrown out of their shacks for not paying the rent. Spare me from the photos of the 37 year old single grandmother with the 18 year old daughter who just gave birth to what will undoubtedly be another generation of uneducated single mothers living in poverty! Spare me from the photos of the old stained mattress where the three have to sleep together because that is all they have!

    Spare me OH LORD!

    Spare me from the constant news stories of how men are bad because some drunken slut said yes one night and made a baby and the father won’t pay until a DNA test proves he is the lucky one of the five men it could have been that week.

    OH LORD! Spare me from the wrath of the law because 15 years ago a court decided that I could live on $25 a week and the rest should go to the slut who fooled me into getting her preggers.

    LORD! Hear my prayer!

  5. Capone

    Agree 100%.

    The middle class is being reduced to nothing while the irresponsible are being rewarded.

    I always skip the pages of the newspaper when I see mother of 4 and nowhere to live. I always ask 1) where is the father or fathers 2) Didn’t she learn at least after the 2nd child?

    Responsible people are having one or two kids because they know the cost of raising them.

    However, once yet again, the innocent and responsible are being penalized while the guilty get protected.

    No sympathy from me.

  6. rastaman

    BUT there is a big problem if Government asks the same taxpayers to assist persons at CLICO and BAICO who had invested their hard earned money with these companies?????

  7. Holetown Brawler

    “Slut Mother”

    It’s about time somebody called it for what it is.

    Thank you Barbados Free Press and West Side Davie. You’ve made my day!

  8. Sheila E.

    Does BFP hate women?

  9. 35

    …..not every woman who is no longer in a relationship with the father of her children is a SLUT MOTHER. Some of these children were born out of legitimate marriages and the fathers decide point blank that they are no longer interested in the marriage and family and turns his back on the kids as well.

    Or decideds he is resigning his staunch job because he “ain’t working for noboby” In cases such as these are the mothers to bear the full responsibility of raising these kids alone. …..I say no. That is where the law courts comes in. In some case gentle / moral persuasion is used but in most cases that will fail. Some women are therefore forced to seek the assistance of the courts to find these “dads”. We all say ‘oh these women just want money or they are using the kids as a pay check”

    Well hello, money is need to feed, provide clothing, education, shelter, medical including dental,transportation and also for socialising that child or children and to provide many other needs they will have. Yes some women can be blamed for thir circumstances but men need to take responsiblity, if you do not want to just provide maintenance find other ways you provide for the needs of YOUR CHILDREN.

  10. clanger

    35 say “…..not every woman who is no longer in a relationship with the father of her children is a SLUT MOTHER. ”

    That much is true. Not every single mother is a slut.

    Only most of them are.

  11. John

    Desmond Hatchett from Knoxville, Tenessee is 29 and news reports claim he has fathered 30 children from 11 different mothers!!

    He has produced 4 children in a year on two occasions!!

    He has to pay half of his minimum wage eranings towards child support.

    Some mothers get a whole $1.29 per month.

    Welfare takes up the slack.

    Hopefully we don’t end up with too many Desmond Hatchetts in Bim.

  12. Third World Child

    Clanger is correct that ‘most’ single mothers (i.e.: never married) are sluts. By the third child there’s not much else to say!!!!!!!!! LOL!

  13. Reality and Mustard

    Question: What do you say to a woman who has chosen to have three children out of wedlock by three men and is complaining that she can’t meet the rent?

    Answer: “Tough luck slut. I’m not giving you any of my hard earned money, and no, I don’t want sex with you. Thank you very much!”

  14. Nurture vs Nature

    Advice to our government: You can nurture a single mother who chose to have three children out of wedlock, or you can tell her to stop being a SLUT.

    DLP government’s choice: Nurture the SLUT behaviour.

  15. 157

    I wonder how many of you are borne of sluts or grandchildren of sluts?

  16. BFP

    Hello 157.

    At least one of us.

    That is me.

    Shona.

  17. Mark Fenty

    @Nurture vs. Nature

    Let’s me say this much, I’m no expert on what government should or should do, with respect to the taxpayers money. But who are you to determine whether or not government should, or shouldn’t support the innocent victims in this affair, (the Children). Don’t you think that in a civil society such as our; government should shoulder some of the responsibility when it comes to addressing the needs and concerns of the innocent? Especially if those who are suppose to do so, fails in they duty and responsibility to they children

    I hate to admit it, but what has been written here so far seems rather pathetic. And show a blatant impertinence to women not only in Barbados, but in every part of the civilized world. Some here are talking as though those men who also begot the children bear no responsibility whatsoever. Fellows please examine the antiquated principles which governs your thinking, especially Nurture vs. Nature. Sir it is despicable to see the way you openly display your misogynistic and chauvinist way of thinking.

  18. West Side Davie

    @ Fenty

    It is not misogynistic to criticize slutty women for their conduct. It is their conduct that creates a lower class of poverty stricken children who don’t have a hope. It is not misogynistic to call it as it is. It is not anti-children to speak the truth that uneducated slutty mothers pass on those values to their children and perpetuate the poverty.

    You want to help the children whose mothers have three babies by three different men and none stuck around? TAKE THE CHILDREN FROM THE SLUT MOTHERS. Put them in child care institutions where at least they will have a fighting chance in a structured environment where they are protected and properly educated and nurtured in edifying values!

  19. Mark Fenty

    Nurture vs. Nature
    The good for nothing man should have put a ring on her finger in the first place, and then there would have been no need for government intervention. 99.99 % of all the all problems with afflict the modern institution of the family; can be traced directly back to the man inability to face up to his responsibility.

  20. passin thru

    Hear! Hear! to West Side Davie!

  21. passin thru

    Fenty, this article is not about married women who have been abandoned. It is clearly about the ‘single’ mothers who have never been married and have multiple children by multiple fathers.

  22. Knight of the Long Knives

    I have to kick in here as i am very much in this predicament. I was involved with a woman who was very much sleeping around behind my back, we have 2 kids who I take care of and supported almost 100% on my own, medical fees, pampers, milk, nursery fees etc while struggling to survive reducing how much i spent in lunch, buying almost no clothes in the past 5 years and after I tell her i want her out of my life she goes to a lawyer and declares that she wants child support.

    To know I will now have to go to court (in these days of thermal receipts that fade after a few weeks from Pricesmart and the like) and PROVE that just based on her say so is totally ridiculous…and I will have to prove it she does not have to prove that I didnt and further even thought she would not help support them I will never be able to force her thru the court to help pay even though she works for only slight less than I do.

  23. Mark Fenty

    @West Side Davie
    My friend, I grew up in a single family home in Barbados back in the 1970s,
    and so had many of my friends. And I remembered quite distinctly all but two homes with a father present. And this phenomenon I may add wasn’t due to our mother’s rebellion; they were good mothers and faithful wives. Our Fathers just decided that it was far better to woo women instead of taking care of their responsibility. Friend, you know as well as I do, that the Barbadian man has failed miserably when it comes to honoring his commitment to his children. I think when it comes to Caribbean men; Barbadian men possess a track- record that is next to none.

  24. Mark Fenty

    Passin thru it seems like you have mush brains. I’m telling you that the reason why most women in Barbados is in this quagmire, is due to the irresponsible men, married or single it doesn’t really matter.

  25. Mark Fenty

    @PassinThru
    My friend you sound like a fool. What’s your point by the way? Are you saying that just because the women are single, with multiple children? That somehow the men play no part in the copulation? (Please! come on sir) Now, correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t believe that I’m. But, I thought that it took two to tangle? And wouldn’t it be fair to say that both parties are equally responsible?

  26. 137

    Mark, it is your attitude that we must accept any standard that has lead to where we are today. Woman has multiple children by multiple men, doesn’t marry any of them, that brings our country down: economically, socially.

    What was once recognized as reprehensible behaviour because it produced lower class children with problems is now an accepted standard and no one can say anything about it for fear of offending someone.

    Here I can say it though: Women who don’t marry but have many children by many men are irresponsible sluts who rely upon others to feed their children. I have zero sympathy for them.

  27. Mark Fenty

    @West Side Davie
    It difficult to believe that in this age of enlightenment, that there are men
    who still think this antiquates way. I’m extremely disturbed by the comments which have been expressed here; because there clearly show a society which is still grounded in a provincial way of look at the world. I have heard it all, “It isn’t misogynistic to criticize slutty women for their conduct.” You don’t get it sir! What about the men and their conduct? Why haven’t you addressed their conduct?

    Don’t you think that is it somehow disingenuous to unilaterally address with blame the woman for her moral turpitude? But the man seems to be acting with all moral correctness so there is no need to repudiate his conduct. Because he has done nothing wrong as far as you are concern. Oh murder! It pains me to think that my fellow Barbadian is still trapped in this kind of mindset.

  28. Mark Fenty

    Anonymous, the world is in a continual state of moral decrepitude. So to place the blame squarely on the shoulders of Barbadian woman with respect to her conduct, seems rather unintelligible my friend.

  29. Mark Fenty

    And who are you to decide how someone is to lead their life? I thought that was the job of the Almighty- God.

  30. Mark Fenty

    I see that there is a lot of work yet to be done, as far as reeducating the
    Barbadian man about the rights of women.

  31. what will they think of next

    I’m extremely disturbed by the comments which have been expressed here;
    Mark fenty if you cant take the heat keep out of the kitchen.
    All comments here make sense except yours.

  32. 145

    All women are sluts and all men are fools……

  33. Newbee

    @ West Side Davie July 10, 2012 at 4:08 pm
    I agree with you. I am of the opinion that the government should take away the children from these single women who have 3 or more children with different fathers. As for married women each case should be handled on an individual basis to find out what may have led to the outcome that they need to apply for assistance.

    As soon as a mother applies for additional assistance after having her 2nd child, especially out of wedlock, she should be told that if she applies for additional assistance upon having a 3rd child, that her children would be removed from her custody and placed in a child care home. Some of these women need to be reminded that birth control comes in various forms.

    This approach might cost the government more money having to take care of these children in a child care institution, rather than putting the money in a mother’s hand which in some cases the money is not used for the purpose in which it is given. In some cases they lie that they don’t receive child support to beat the system. Also and sadly, some use the money for things outside the realm of the children, such as using the money to make themselves attractive to another man and the innocent child does not get the necessities like nutrition, care, etc that is required.

    I think that at least the taxpayers’ money would be better used knowing their money is spent on feeding, educating, etc these innocent children, until there is a change in circumstances by the mother or until that child reaches the age that she or he can fend for itself.

    I say do not put money in the mothers’ hands. Those with one or two children that need help with their rent, the check should go directly to the landlord or landlady. Create coupons or something like a credit card with the mother’s picture that could be used at the supermarkets to purchase food, shoes, clothes, etc. They should be required to open a bank account where a minimum amount of money is deposited each month for miscellaneous items that cannot be bought in stores or supermarkets.

    Enabling is not the answer!

  34. equality for fathers now!

    I can see we have a lot of work yet to be done on educating Mark Fenty that fathers have rights too, and if fathers are not getting custody of the children 50% of the time, the system is biased against men. If women want equality, let there be equality for all. Women cannot have it all ways: claim they want to be equal, just not when it comes to providing monitory support for children and not when it comes to custody.

    When fathers get custody of the children 50% of the time, talk to me about equality.

  35. Anybody's definition

    According to Mr. Fenty, the women are not responsible one iota for their life mess, only the men. The article clearly blames both sexes for the mess, but nobody likes it when the women are called sluts even if that is what they are by anybody definition.

  36. kimesha

    Many women, young and not so young found themselves in this predicament because many of them go out to Karaoke at night, drink alcohol, smoke drugs, meet each other while they are both intoxicated and inebriated, have sex together and by the next morning, the man is asking: “Wait, wha’ happen?”

    I know of one guy who did this and said that he only knew he had sex with the young woman because his nature had dried all over his stomach when he awoke the next morning in his car and saw the young woman beside him. Now he refuses to support that child voluntarily!

    When this situation happens , not only are we left with persons falling further into poverty and criminal acts but we have to try to manage additional children who generally have ADHD because they were conceived in body fluids that had been tainted with alcohol and drugs.

    It would be good to have research done on all the men in prison – those who have already been diagnosed with ADHD or those who have not been yet diagnosed, to find whether they were all conceived under such or similar conditions.

    It is truly a burdensome situation for us here in Barbados.

  37. CQ9

    I agree that this behaviour by both men and women is undermining the quality of our nation and the quality of our population. Boys need fathers. Period. Women, especially young unmarried women, cannot properly raise boys into men. As the author says, there are exceptions but the exceptions prove the rule is true. Young unmarried women cannot raise sons properly. That is self-evident by the horrible job they have been doing.

    The experiment of making single motherhood socially acceptable has failed.

  38. RLL

    @CQ9

    You said “The experiment of making single motherhood socially acceptable has failed.”

    How true!

  39. @ Knight of LK’s – Photocopy all thermal receipts you wish to keep, then scan them as a jpeg; have both my Mother and Father’s Death/Funeral Certificates plus business transactions I had with Advertising Clients for my website over the years just so preserved

  40. what will they think of next

    I have a sister-in-law who is thirty one years old and she has six children by six different men. the last child is about five months old. It is for the carpenter who was working on her house. He has already skipped town.

  41. what will they think of next

    Too many black Bajan women are breeding like rats. But Mark fenty has no problem with this .

  42. Anonymous

    My housekeeper is 35 year old she has 7 children all for different men….something is just very wrong about that.

  43. just want to know

    And it is said Barbados & Barbadians are an educated Society, tell me, the education is in just how to have sex. Free education, free healthcare, & free sex, what a situation, and now we are having to support the perpetrators children, when they could have free contraception.

  44. Knight of the Long Knives

    @ Ian I can do that now but I have a few years of receipts that are blank. Hopefully I can get some of them back.

  45. pundit90hotmail.com

    I say don’t give them one cent ! if Government wants to do anything,they can give the dead beat mothers baby food vouchers, and vouchers for baby supplies.NOT ONE RED CENT SHOULD EVER BE PUT IN THEIR HANDS !
    Everbody KNOWS that when fathers give them money for the children,ALL of them use the majority on THEMSELVES and NOT on the children !Furthermore,some of those mothers,would still ” frig up “their own children,if they see you with another woman.
    This happens when the mother sees that you really care about the children,and the children want to see or spend time with their father,they would deliberately STOP the children from seeing him….end result…the child ends up crying,and sometimes the father as well.

  46. St George's Dragon

    Government announced BDS$400,000 for the child assistance support fund and said (from memory) that this would cover BDS$50/week per child.
    I calculate that means support for 150 children which I don’t think is going to break the country and is for a good cause if it goes to very deserving cases.
    The idea is that Government pays the needy mothers, then hunts down the errant fathers for the money. I am not sure it has been said but the implication is that the programme is going to be cash neutral as a result of recovery of money from the fathers.
    The problem is that it is not going to work. Goverment agencies are not that great at their jobs in any circumstances and finding these fathers and getting them to pay is going to be really difficult. Best to accept the money is not recoverable.
    The Child Support Agency in the UK was set up to do the same job. It failed badly and the last I heard was set to be scrapped.
    The trick here is going to be to make sure that the fund does not get expanded too much.

  47. Mark Fenty

    Let’s us not forget that the Victims here are the Children.

  48. Mark Fenty

    A lot of men have failed in their responsibility to honor their obligation to their families.And therefore, it must not be forgotten that women in every century has carry the burdens of the man on her shoulders for far too long. So let’s stop moralizing on them and respect the Sacrifices that
    their have made.

  49. millertheanunnaki

    @ what will they think of next July 11, 2012 at 2:18 pm
    “Too many black Bajan women are breeding like rats. But Mark fenty has no problem with this .”

    That’s a big myth and falsehood. There is more “breeding like rats” per thousand of population among the new Asian ethnic community especially among those of the Islamic faith than any other racial or ethnic group. Barbados has an aging population with re-productivity rates generally lower than is required to keep the population level stable or growing.

    Most black educated women in Barbados are not sufficiently reproductive and are contributing to an exceedingly skewed demographic profile in favour of your class-biased description of “those breeding like rats”.

    If not for the above average contribution from the expanding Islamic faction who see family planning as an increasing numbers game and that from the so-called breeding rats (your words) along with a net migration from the region the local population would be in significant decline like that of Japan.

    If there is one positive (depending on your point of view) thing that has resulted from equal educational opportunities offered to both the Barbadian black female and male over the last 40 to 50 years is the concomitant population control and significantly smaller nuclear families and the disappearing extended family ties.

  50. what will they think of next

    These black women need to learn to keep their legs shut.

  51. millertheanunnaki

    @ what will they think of next July 13, 2012 at 12:04 am
    “These black women need to learn to keep their legs shut.”

    And then people like you would not see the light of day to be so vicious and vitriolic to others.
    If you are not black maybe your redneck family ties would not exist if not for a night of drunken stupor .
    Now shut up, you racist clown!

  52. Mark Fenty

    @Miller
    Miller, don’t get me wrong sir, because I believe in the concept of personal responsible. But it seems rather farfetched that you would unilaterally moralize on these women behavior; without equally attributing culpability to the men who impregnate them. Isn’t fair to argue that these men bear some of the responsibility sir? Your little hypothesis is painted with the brush of partiality, don’t you think?

  53. millertheanunnaki

    @Mark Fenty July 13, 2012 at 1:25 pm
    “But it seems rather farfetched that you would unilaterally moralize on these women behavior; without equally attributing culpability to the men who impregnate them.”

    Why are you attributing this position to me? It is NOT in my intellectual DNA to moralize about people’s behaviours. People could do what they want to do as long as they are not hurting others, violating the rights of others or the current laws of the land.
    I hold no religion as holy or fit to determine the morals of a people.
    So if you are not prepared to withdraw your comment then reproduce the statement(s) I made to cause you to come to that conclusion about my moral views on women’s behaviour or even that of the men.

  54. what will they think of next

    Another one in this morning’s paper with an army of little children.
    What de bad word is going on with these stupid women.

  55. Sunshine Sunny Shine

    I am happy that I do not carry those things that hang down the middle of a man’s body. You trying to tell me that men in Barbados are so irresponsible, so insensitive, so callous and so bastard that on this island to the point that they are significantly disadvantage in the law courts when it comes custodial and marital matters? Geeeeeeez I wonder if these situations reflect true justice

  56. what will they think of next

    this article should be pinned at the top.

  57. Mark Fenty

    @Miller
    It is time that we take a closer look at the sperm- donors, remember now, it takes too tangled. Miller it’s pretty difficult to convince me that some of the comments here aren’t misogynistic, and sexist in nature. The phenomenon of single -motherhood that you have attributed exclusively to Barbadian women has been commonplace in most societies in the world friend.

    Nonetheless, my reiterated endeavors to convince some here that their language is despicable, offensive, and disingenuous, has proven futile. I agree that the Barbadian culture has produced the type of woman that can be described as materialist, and opportunist, but so has many other cultures in the world. With this in mind, it is extremely difficult to convince me that the Barbadian man bear no iota of culpability for begotten children out of wedlock with these single women.

    Finally, there are a lot of men who believe that the criminal justice system has been unreasonable, especially when it involves custody battles and child- support issues. And their may well be right. But it is important that we as men honor our divine decree as the Head, and Provider of the family.

  58. millertheanunnaki

    @ Mark Fenty July 14, 2012 at 1:40 pm
    “The phenomenon of single -motherhood that you have attributed exclusively to Barbadian women has been commonplace in most societies in the world friend.”

    Wrong again, Mark! I have never argued that such phenomenon is exclusive to Barbadian society. I believe you are mixing me up with “what will they think of next” or some other blogger.

    I have seen too many single-parent situations outside Barbados to jump to such a ‘small island” attitude towards family arrangements.
    Let me repeat (again) for your edification and clarification:
    I, the miller, have no moral position on women having children from men under any circumstances. I might have an economic view but certainly not a moral position. Capiche?

  59. what will they think of next.

    Mark fenty give it a rest. You are just wasting time.