Daily Archives: June 18, 2009

Why Rihanna Couldn’t Leave Chris Brown… Of Pit Bulls, Cobras, Dr. Phil and Oprah

“I’m going to beat the shit out of you when you get home. You wait and see.”

…Chris Brown as said to Robyn Rihanna Fenty. Detailed in court documents read on Oprah’s show, March 6, 2009

“Yes, low self-esteem is a well-known factor in domestic abuse dynamics. But, people don’t stay in abusive relationships because they have low self-esteem. They stay because their partner has threatened to kill them if they leave. They stay because their partner has reinforced that threat with physical abuse and stalking…”

… Anne Caroline Drake speaks of what she knows personally in her article Rihanna: Should You Stay? Should You Leave?

Rihanna Choice

Anne Caroline Drake visited our blog and left words on the Rihanna/Chris Brown saga a few times. I guess you would call Anne an activist against domestic violence and child abuse. She met President Clinton three times and that is three times more than me.

I don’t know if she ever read our articles titled Beat Your Wife In Barbados? You Are Protected From The Police If You Live In A Gated Community! and Do We Need Signs Like This In Barbados? but I think she would appreciate them.

If you care about domestic violence or if you want insight into why women and Rihanna have difficulty leaving abusers, you should read her article on Rihanna and some of the other things she writes. Anne thinks Oprah and Dr. Phil are wrong about domestic violence and she has convinced me.

Shona with Cliverton

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Barbados Police Praised By Bahamian Volleyball Team – 2 Arrested, 60% Of Stolen Property Recovered

It has been a bitter-sweet feeling for the visitors who found their locker room emptied of their personal things after playing a game in the just concluded Women’s Volleyball World Championships. Joseph Smith, head of the delegation, said although they had not recovered everything that was lost, the team was very happy about the outcome, especially in cases where there were personal items.

“Members of the team who had I-pods and things like lap-tops with their personal information were ecstatic,” he added.

“We appreciate everything that was done for us and want to say a big thank you,” Smith said.

… from the Nation News article Loot Found

Praise Where Due, But Many Questions Remain

Bahamas Volleyball Team Sorts Through Recovered Property

Bahamas Volleyball Team Sorts Through Recovered Property

Criticism of the Barbados Police by the Bahamian Volleyball team gave way to praise after some good police work resulted in the arrest of two Bajan brothers and recovery of about 60% of the team members’ stolen property. The girls were particularly happy about getting back electronic devices like iPods and laptop computers that contained personal information.

While this sterling performance by the officers of the Royal Barbados Police Force takes the edge off the public relations disaster that happens whenever visitors become victims of crime, it in no way makes up for the failure of the Barbados Volleyball Association officials and planners to protect our guests in the first place.

It is the natural culture of Bajans to write this incident off because the thieves stand charged and some property was recovered. It is the natural culture of Bajans to not want to be critical of the individuals who failed to consider security when hosting an international sports event.

But as we should have learned with the disaster called Cricket World Cup, if you want to play on the world stage your actions will be instantly broadcast around the world – so you had better get it right. Unfortunately, no amount of “Barbados Police get their man” stories about this volleyball tournament incident can ever make up for the original stories that appeared in the Bahamian news media and throughout the Caribbean.

And what about the unrecovered property? Who will pay for that? Who will compensate the team members and supervisors for their lost time at work and disrupted lives?

This is not a story with a happy ending despite the current spin in the Barbados news media.

Our Great Failing As A Society

Bajans (and their successive governments) believe in being reactive, rather than proactive. We seldom act to prevent incidents before they occur – we prefer to clean up afterwards and half the time we can’t get that right. This “doan worry ’til somethin happen” failing has dogged our culture for decades and becomes increasingly worse as our leadership exhibits the same laissez-faire attitude.

I mean, heck – we had to replace a whole fleet of garbage trucks four years early because nobody bothered to change the engine oil as required! Whose fault was that? “Nobody”.

So who of the Barbados Volleyball Association will admit personal responsibiliy for failing to ensure the security of visiting team members during an international tournament? Which person will pay for the losses? Who will resign?

Answer: Nobody

Oh, there will be a press conference where the BVA will announce that they have “reviewed” what happened and “taken action” to ensure that future events are “better secured”… but that may or may not be the truth. It is more likely than not that the “new commitment” will be nothing more than a statement without real follow-up action or ongoing oversight to ensure compliance.

In Barbados, we learn from our Government leaders. We do press conferences and promises very well.

As to taking real action?

Doan mek sport!

Further Reading…

BFP – June 16, 2009: Bahamas Volleyball Team Robbed Of Everything From Barbados Garfield Sobers Locker Room – Complaints of “Lukewarm” Response By Barbados Police & Volleyball Officials

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Chris Brown Hearing To Go Ahead Monday – Rihanna May Testify About Assault

California Supreme Court Says Its Time For Chris Brown To Face The Music

Like the coward he truly is for hitting a woman, Chris Brown tried to delay his preliminary hearing into assaulting Rihanna last February. The Supreme Court of California says that the hearing is to proceed as scheduled on June 22nd. It is expected that Rihanna will testify on June 22, 2009

Rihanna & Chris Brown A Few Hours Before The Alleged Assault

Rihanna & Chris Brown A Few Hours Before The Alleged Assault

A Rap For Chris Brown

Well Chris, it’s like this...

Well Chris, it’s like this...

Even though you have money for big fancy lawyers,

It isn’t a murder trial! You don’t rate – the highest court in the State says you have a date

to face the music on Monday.

You’ve had plenty of time to prepare for the day, so HEY! for once be a man and take your medicine if you have to.

I don’t care if she hit you first. I don’t care if she was screaming throwing a hissy fit. You don’t Hit!

I don’t care if she was crazy lady moon time. ‘less you tell me she had a knife at your throat, I don’t, I won’t…

I don’t buy any story that has you laying hands on a woman… let alone bite marks. Bite Marks!

Look at you, Chris. Look at Rihanna. Hey doan ya know, she’s a little slip of a thing who coulda beat on you all night

…and not even raise a bruise.

What message are you going to deliver to the world, Chris?

Okay to beat on a woman if she hit you first? Okay to bite a woman if she won’t let go?

Okay to slap her on the face? Slam on the brakes, launch her face – into the windshield?

If you were wrong, fess up. Doan try to get more licks, ’cause then the judge gonna fall on you like a ton a bricks!

(submitted by a reader who says “apologies to Lady Ga-Ga” – which means nothing to me! 🙂 )

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