As anyone who has not been sleeping for the past few weeks knows, the media and the internet have been talking of Bajan students who made cellphone photos and movies of sex acts sometimes in public and sometimes involving groups of students and non-students. Then they circulated them on the internet.
Some of these videos have the names of the students or schools as the title of the file. Many of the participants are identifiable.
The principal of Garrison Secondary School and other community leaders have called for a ban on cellphones in school. While I can see everyone desperately grasping for some quick “solution”, it took us years to get to this place. In my opinion, neither a technical solution nor a rule change will “solve” the extensive societal changes that are at the root of this behaviour.
There have always been girls who are easy sluts in secondary school, and there have always been unethical young men willing to take advantage of younger girls, but never have we had such a large number of young people whose moral compass is so damaged that they are willing to be photographed in such activities.
This is a far deeper problem than the availability of cellphones.
What is the solution then?
I don’t know any more than anyone else, and you folks shouldn’t expect a comprehensive plan to save society from itself – from an old guy with a beer in one hand and a keyboard in the other. I will speak about a few things though…
1/ Many of the videos “star” underage girls having sex with much older males.
2/ The creation of such movies is “making child pornography” and is against the law just about everywhere. Here in Barbados? I don’t know if it is or not.
Our leaders don’t like to have too many laws because they don’t want to be held accountable for their actions. I’m not saying that they are involved in child porn. I’m just speaking the truth that our leaders have so far refused to implement all sorts of laws that other societies think are pretty basic: drinking and driving laws, privacy laws, laws about transparency of public tenders, conflict of interest standards and the like.
I don’t know if we have laws against making or distributing child pornography or not, but we should have.
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Some say that there is little anyone can do to counter the assault upon the values and standards of behaviour that once formed the foundation of Bajan society. With upwards of two thirds or more of Bajan children now being born bastards, it is obvious that the societal stigma against unwed motherhood has been long removed.
(Don’t like that ‘bastard’ word? It is a perfectly good word in context and is brought to you by a bastard himself. Look it up here)
Where are the fathers?
We have generations of children being raised exclusively by women in the home, and taught almost exclusively by women in schools. Men and fathers have been pretty well relegated to society’s “optional equipment” list.
This is unnatural, and practically it has proven to be destructive to our society. Any thinking person knows the truth of this.
Young men need strong fathers to guide them and to teach them right from wrong. Women cannot effectively do this alone. Any thinking person knows the truth of this.
If you want proof then look around at the results of boys being raised without fathers.
Young women need strong fathers to protect them: fathers who remember that a hormone-driven 16-year-old young man has no conscience in certain matters. Most women do not understand this. Most mothers do not understand this.
Men understand this.
Never mind the cellphones. It’s way too late to be concerned about the cellphones. Taking the cellphones is shuffling the deck chairs on the Titanic.
A better man than I am asked “Who will cast the first stone?”, but he also told us to speak the truth.
Our public leadership must be good examples because they ARE examples. This nonsense about separating one’s personal and private lives is crap. Pure crap.
Look at our leadership. Are they faithful to their spouses? Do they have children dropped here and there with different women or by different men? Are they honest? Do they have manners and respect for differences, or do they get drunk and phone up people in the middle of the night to curse and bully?
Most people will follow the example of their leaders, because most people are followers, not leaders.
As a society and as individuals we need to start judging people more, and to turn our backs on those who choose the wrong path. We need to disassociate ourselves from political parties and other organizations that stand only for the obtaining or retention of power.
We need some good, decent people to stand as independent candidates in the next election… to send a message about leadership, and duty and honesty.
They might not win, but it would be a start.
posted by George.
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