Updated Sept 2, 2006 – Scroll to Bottom for Update
This is one of those “everybody thinks it, but nobody dares say it aloud” articles.
Hamilton Lashley wants to “eradicate poverty” in Barbados through the simple expedient of giving money (called “a social safety net”) to women who choose to have many babies without bothering to get married or otherwise find a man who is willing and able to support a family.
This makes unwed motherhood a career choice, and empowers young uneducated women to perpetuate further generations of young unwed mothers and young men who lack the steady hand of a father.
The current trend towards making unwed motherhood a societally sponsored career choice marginalizes the role of fathers and men in general – and can do no long-term good.
How about this for a national policy…. “You breed ’em. You feed ’em.”
And what about the children, you say?
For those children who are needy, set up a national orphanage where at least they have a chance to escape being socialized into a never-ending cycle of lower-class mores that drains away self-reliance and personal responsibility.
There. Said it. Felt good.
Cliverton with Shona
From The Barbados Advocate…
With a United Nations (UN) definition of abject poverty referring to any individual earning less than US$1 per day, Advisor to the Government on Poverty Eradication and the Millennium Goals, the Honourable Hamilton Lashley stated that Barbados enjoys a unique brand of poverty, which must be stamped out nonetheless.
Speaking at the first of the Rotary Club of Barbados South’s evening meetings…
According to Lashley, who was quite comprehensive in his presentation regarding the unified international plan to stamp out poverty, the state of affairs in Barbados is quite unique in the sense that several struggling individuals are living in a poverty of choice so to speak. Regaling the audience with a host of stories from his own experiences, Lashley noted that individuals living in the most dilapidated structures in Barbados, who are unable to provide themselves with one meal a day, have, for example, a large, expensive vehicle parked in the driveway.
Focusing significantly on the misplaced values of these particular persons living in Barbados, Lashley was quick to point out that the government will always provide safety nets to individuals who truly have no power to help themselves, and through research will continue to show great care in the individuals looking to survive on tax payers money.
Highlighting single mothers of large families along with the disabled community of Barbados, Lashley extended an arm to the Rotary Club of Barbados South to partner in the plans for poverty eradication here in Barbados.
Updated – September 2, 2006
As if we need more proof about the cycle of unwed mothers giving birth to unwed mothers, you must read this article from The Nation News…
IT’S NOT EASY TO talk about what I’m going through right now, but I want to share my experience with Barbados in the hope that other mothers will realise how they influence their daughters, for good or bad…
My situation involves my daughter and her lifestyle. Despite the fact that she has certificates from secondary school, she is not interested in working anywhere. Instead, she prefers to live off hand-outs from different men – all of whom are married.
Right now she is friendly with three of them. She sees each on different days and has them so well regulated that they don’t turn up by the house unannounced.
It hurts me to admit it, but it seems that’s the way she intends to get through in life – on her back.
How my daughter got this way is what I want to talk about. She was raised by my mother because I could not properly care for her. At that time, my boyfriend, who was not her father, and I were renting a house that was not in the best condition, and we still had our two children to support. It was tough, so my mother took her off my hands.
Exposed to lifestyle
At my mom’s house she was exposed to the lifestyle of my two sisters in particular and my mother. Both of my sisters had a child each before they were 19. Both had hell with their children’s fathers, and both began using men to get what they wanted.
…As for my mother, though she tried her best with us, she had it rough with our fathers, in particular my sisters’ father who used to beat her. So she had this hatred for men that was intense by the time my daughter went to live with her.
It was in this environment that my daughter grew up and her opinion about men was shaped. She saw violence and abuse in my sisters’ relationships, and heard negatives from my mother.
By the time she was 19 and out of school, instead of looking for a job, she had a married man going to my mother’s house to her…
But what was worse than even her attitude was that of my mother and sisters who said she was doing the right thing. I remember how the sister three years younger than me said: “If she is going to do something, she may as well get something for it.” That is the way they brainwashed my child.
Well, she is in her late 20s today and still living in my mother’s home which she and my sisters have renovated. She has her own room and brings in who she likes. … And my mother says nothing to the three of them because she feels that all men are good for is money.
Again, what hurts me deeply about her behaviour is what she has put her body through. She had two abortions. When I heard about them from my mother, after she had the last one, I confronted her on it. She blasted me, telling me I am no better than her as I was never married but lived with a man all my life. Besides that I brought a ‘bunch a bastards’ into this world with hardly anything to give them, and she didn’t plan to do that too.
Since that time, about two years ago, we have not spoken; my sisters and mother don’t say anything to me either. It’s a case of the blind leading the blind.
…. Every time I look at her I feel that I could have tried harder with her, but I was only a girl myself considering that I had her when I was 17.